Weight Loss: “Toning” versus “Strengthening”

When someone asks me about losing weight, there are usually two main approaches I discuss with them. I refer to the first as “Toning” and the second as “Strengthening.” Many things factor into deciding which method to use, and sometimes they overlap. I am going to describe how they are similar and how they are different, and what type of client is suited to each approach.

Toning

When people talk about “toning,” they usually mean losing fat and gaining visible muscle tone in a relatively short amount of time; say, three to six months. This is a perfectly reasonable goal to have, but it requires something special on the part of the client. It cannot be achieved haphazardly, passively, or by accident.

This is because toning requires a higher level of caloric burn than strengthening does. The process of losing fat in a rapid way is only achievable if the client follows a strict regimen of exercise and diet. If one of these elements falls behind, the results can be unsatisfactory.

Put differently, more changes in the person’s life are required to successfully “tone.”

Toning is also harder because it is harder to maintain. Once the goal has been approached or even reached, the diet and exercise regimen does not stop. It must continue in some form or the results will go away completely. There is no way around this.

Let’s say your goal is having visible abdominal muscles. You’ve been sticking to your meal plan and watching every calorie for three straight months, and doing your cardio homework three to five days per week. On top of that, you’ve eliminated alcohol from your diet (yes, this is necessary for toning), respected your cheat meal parameters, abstained from the donuts and cakes that show up in your office on a regular basis, et cetera. And one day, you notice something in the mirror that could be referred to as the beginnings of a “sixpack.” You smile big, and feel amazing.

Now that you’ve reached your goal, that doesn’t mean you’re “done.” You can’t stop watching what you eat. You can’t stop exercising. You can’t start going to the bar every night after work and drinking nine Miller Lights. I mean, you could, but everything you’d worked so hard for would disappear in a much shorter time than it took to achieve. I’m sorry but this is the truth.

Despite what “fitspo” memes would have you believe, dieting and toning is not like climbing a mountain, where you reach the top and then go back down. Instead, you must stay either stay at the top or go higher. This is why many people have so much trouble with “weight loss.” Doing it this way—the “toning” way—literally requires you to change almost your entire life. Understandably, it is too much for some people.

But I’ll tell you one thing: it works. Cutting calories, improving food quality, getting better sleep, reducing life stress, increasing daily exercise, keeping bad and self-destructive habits at a minimum or gone altogether…in other words, reorienting the majority of your life around fitness and nutrition totally works. How could it not?!

The truth is that you don’t have the body composition you have now because of one or even two or three bad decisions. You have it because of an entire lifestyle. This doesn’t make you a bad person. Our lives are unbelievably complex and full of obligations, stress, and uncertainty. But if changing your body composition is important to you, you must change your lifestyle, no matter what approach you use. That, again, is the honest truth.

Toning is one way to do this. It is best for people who are already active and comfortable with exercise (therefore requiring less overall life alteration), and who are disciplined in that they more or less stick to a course of action once they have committed to it. Toning is a hard way, an effective way, but not the only way.

Strengthening

Now I’ll discuss strengthening. By “strengthening,” of course I’m referring to strengthening the muscles themselves, but in addition to that, I’m using the word to mean strengthening the mind of the exerciser.

Why strengthen the mind? The amount of people who are willing to do everything I describe above is very small. That’s partly because “toning” requires a level of effort and focus that a lot of people aren’t comfortable with. If you’ve a) never exercised before, b) haven’t exercised in a long time, c) are uncomfortable with strenuous activity, d) deal with chronic pain, including psychological pain, or e) would describe yourself as lacking self-control or discipline, you’re in no position to vastly alter your way of being, not because you couldn’t handle it (it’s amazing what the human body can handle) but because you couldn’t stick to it.

One main challenge that some people have with accepting this reality is the moral judgment they attach to it. They feel that because they can’t or won’t completely alter their daily lives and live like the beautiful, fit people on Instagram ostensibly do, that means they’re “bad,” “weak,” “worthless,” or worse.

Unfortunately, this is the standard to which many people hold themselves: comparing themselves to fitness models who are often 10 to 20 years younger, who were probably engaged in exercise from a younger age, who may very well have fewer external obligations like jobs, houses, families, car payments, et cetera, and who essentially work in the (often harshly critical) fitness industry, which can be, needless to say, a strong motivator.

This is why strengthening the mind is so important. Many people lack what I call a “physical identity.” There is no context involving physical activity in which such people feel “like themselves.” Exercise is always a foreign activity, unwelcome, odd, an imposition. And by definition, uncomfortable. Dieting often comes to be viewed the same way. Hence, they have virtually no chance of ever becoming “toned” as I describe above, meaningfully, safely, and sustainably. They have no “way in.”

This is where strengthening the muscles comes in. The term “strength training” refers to the organized and structured process of increasing the amount of weight you can lift in a given exercise.

“But Coach Mark,” you might ask, “how do I lose weight by increasing strength?” Well, I should come clean. You may not lose a ton of weight through strengthening alone. But you will lose fat.

Increasing the size of a muscle by exercising it increases what’s called your Basal Metabolic Rate, or BMR. This term refers to the number of calories your body burns simply by existing. In burning the calories, your body is maintaining its tissues.

Muscle burns many, many more calories in this way than fat. Therefore, if you increase your body’s “lean mass,” which is a fancy term for muscle, it will burn more calories, which will in turn lead to the loss of body fat.

In addition to this, you will have better, safer movements, healthier joints, a stronger back, better posture, more useful strength for daily activities, higher bone density, and greater self-reliance as you age. And if that wasn’t enough, any fat loss you do accomplish will be more evident because of the presence of toned muscle underneath it. These are some of the many benefits of regular strength training.

So, if you engage in this organized and structured process, and each week, you increase the amount of weight you lift even a just a little bit, over time, your muscles will grow bigger and stronger, your BMR will increase, and you will have a healthier, more “toned” body composition. Simple, right?

Well, you can’t outrun a bad diet. If your diet stays the same, there’s a good chance that, although you will feel stronger, more “solid,” and more robust, you will look more or less the same, at least most of the time.

But one of the beauties of strength training is that it helps people develop a positive relationship to exercise. It does this by teaching them useful skills, specifically the squat, the deadlift, the overhead press, and the bench press, among others. It motivates them through the prospect of OBJECTIVE weekly progress: if you lifted more weight, you improved. Simple.

These skills and motivation start to form a competency that can produce a level of comfort with physical exertion that was never there before. In other words, strength training helps them develop a physical identity.

Based on this newly developed physical identity, it can become easier to implement dietary changes. You have seen the results of your exercise in the form of strength gains and you want to maintain them, so this motivates you to change your behavior, even just a little bit: drink more water, go to sleep a little earlier, eat a little less junk food and a little more lean protein or leafy greens, drink a little less alcohol, take your multivitamin, et cetera.

From there, you might want to add some extra cardio work during the week to keep your “work capacity” (which governs your energy levels during a workout) a little higher, or a designated stretch interval during the day to keep your knees and back and hips and shoulders healthy so that you can keep lifting each week without any obstacles.

You might never quite make the jump towards an “active lifestyle,” but you will be objectively healthier, stronger, more aware, more empowered, and more capable of making that decision with an informed mind, specifically regarding whether it’s something YOU actually want or need, and not that person on Instagram with two million followers.

So who is suited to “strengthening” in this way? Everybody! Whether you’re the “get up and go, can’t sit still” type, or you like to chill on the couch with a book to unwind, whether you’re young or old, tall or short, happy or unhappy, injured or sound, strength training is achievable by virtually anyone.

There are so many wonderful lessons that are learned from strengthening your muscles in this way that I will save them for another article. Suffice it to say that even if squatting your bodyweight is not your goal, you will begin to see your body and yourself as the amazing and powerful things that they really are, capable of doing whatever you put your mind to, and the goals that you do have will become that much more achievable.

A Final Note on Female Strength Training

A lot of female exercisers worry about becoming too muscular. I’m going to put your minds at ease in two ways. The first is biological: with very, very few exceptions, women simply do not naturally possess adequate testosterone to ever become “bulky” with muscle.

The second point is a general rule: no one ever got bulky by accident. Doing three sets of five repetitions of squats, deadlifts, overhead presses, and bench presses two times per week (or some variation of that) is not going to change you into a She-Hulk overnight, overmonth, or even overyear. Getting big, blocky-looking muscles is achieved using many more exercises than just squats and deadlifts and with a much higher amount of sets and reps, often utilizing fairly extreme dieting methods on top of that.

If a woman, including you, wants to look “jacked,” that is totally fine. In fact, it’s awesome. But strength training alone generally won’t accomplish it. So rest easy. You can have stronger, more toned legs, better hip and back health, higher metabolism, and more useful upper body strength without having to look like a “bodybuilder.” At least, not until you want to. :)))

And if you don’t believe me, check out this 19-year-old world-class female powerlifter. Strong, solid, but not exactly a she-hulk is she?

How To Combat “Workout Burnout” (and not the good kind!)

For many people who leap onto the exercise bandwagon with both feet, working out is often super-fun for the first few weeks, but no matter great it feels, no matter how excited and enthused and eager you consciously feel, within a month, maybe two, old habits of inactivity set in and that beautifully short period in which you were an “exerciser” comes to an end, yet again.

The best way to combat this habit is….GO EASY ON YOURSELF!! Burnout is a part of working out in the same way that you’d get tired of your favorite foods if you ate them everyday. The answer is variety. Find alternative methods of working out and staying active, and if you can’t find one, make it your BEESWAX to ALWAYS just get to the gym and do SOMETHING. Or workout at home and do something. Just do something!

That way, you’ll feel better that you did SOMETHING, even if wasn’t exactly what you’d planned on doing. Along with that, PLAN those alternative methods into your workout routine. If you know or have a good feeling that what you’re doing in the gym will get tiresome in a few weeks, plan in advance to change it up somehow.

For instance, instead of doing the treadmill for one hour (blah), learn about some resistance-training methods, design a little program, and do them instead. Something like this: plank for one minute, do 20 glute bridges, and then do 10 pushups, 20 seated machine rows (or standing dumbbell rows, or elastic rows…), 30 bodyweight squats, high incline treadmill run for 2 minutes, and then plank again for 1 minutes with your abs and glutes clenched. And do this circuit, I don’t know, five times. Maybe reverse it once or twice. Trust me, this WILL git ‘er done.

And there are a million other things you could be doing to get your sweat on: bodyweight progressions, cycling, cross-training, suspension training, sleds, battleropes, medicine balls, landmine training, elastics, interval training, doing 50 burpees just ‘cuz. Research them online and try them out at home if you can or in a private corner of the gym first if you are self-conscious. The key is to at least LOOK like you know what you are doing, while minimizing risk of injury by using good form.

So that’s one thing that causes exercise dropoff: lack of variety.

Another cause that I have seen time and again is stress. Our lives are complex; our health and well-being often take a backseat to other concerns, like our jobs and families. It is this willingness to prioritize a client’s health and well-being that decides if she is “ready” to really make lasting changes in her life. And a lot of the time, she isn’t. But that’s not her fault.

Stress keeps us from going to the gym, a lot. Unless exercise has served you for a long time as a positive outlet for stress (which is usually dependent on it either being a character-building experience for you, or on seeing substantial results from it), it probably won’t serve you as one now. In fact, it may have negative connotations to you, symbolizing bad experiences in gym class when you were younger, or something that everyone ELSE seems to be good at while you “SUCK at it,” or just the pain and discomfort of subjecting your body to hard work.

No; old ways of dealing with stress—video games, Netflix and chill, glass of wine, a few slices of pizza—these will crop up as your stress outlets, because they are more comfortable. They don’t demand that you step OUT of a comfort zone, like exercise seems to do both physically and mentally.

If this is the case, the answer is not to beat yourself up about it. The answer is to try to deal with the root causes of the stress in your life and minimize it so that you can devote that energy to healthy activities. Why is this or that thing in your life constantly disorganized or overdue? Where are areas in which you need more support from the people around you? What are you devoting time to that is actually bad for your health and furthers your stress and sense of disempowerment?Developing positive/creative means of dealing with these sources of stress is part of entering and sustaining a healthy lifestyle, and it doesn’t happen overnight.

But, doing so will help you overcome any negative associations with exercise and cultivate a positive relationship to it, empowering the hell out of you.

As I said, a lot of people aren’t ready to make their health a priority and, in so doing, completely change their lives: maintaining a daily exercise habit in perpetuity, eating both plentifully and healthily, drinking enough water and getting enough sleep, and dealing with stress in beneficial ways, perhaps even learning to love challenges and adversity. Changing your life in this way requires making specific promises to yourself that are, by definition, not easy to live up to. The main promise is that fitness and health must become an absolutely crucial and central part of your lifestyle. There must never be a reasonable excuse to not work out, or eat in a mindless fashion.

But this promise—“I will because I want to, because I should,” or however you’d phrase it—can’t be the only reason you do it. You must learn to derive some enjoyment from it, some pleasure, some feeling of empowerment.

The “one fell swoop” approach to life-changing rarely works for most people. It takes a lifetime to become the person you are now; it may take a part of a lifetime to become the person you want to be. It requires great patience with yourself to see results, and a willingness to see progress in steps, proactively addressing one aspect of your life at a time until the overall picture starts to appear radically and beautifully different. 

We have so many things in our lives to deal with. Before we try to completely change our lives, it would be super to have some of these things taken care of first. So, one step, one brick, one thing at a time. You will have to find a specific medium, one with adequate discipline and rewards to hit your current fitness goals (and you will need goals; having a way to work out without a gym is a good thing too), but with enough flexibility that you can avoid the feeling of constantly failing and all of the debilitating stress and self-castigation that can go with that.

You don’t deserve that. You deserve to feel good about yourself. So when workout burnout peers out from behind the corner of tomorrow, take a deep breath and say, “time to change it up, and think about what’s keeping me from exercising, because whatever it is, I have the power to change it.”

11 Reasons You’re Not Making Gains in the Gym

This article, in all its clickbaity glory, first appeared on Puckermob.

So you have a gym routine and you’re making it happen. Hard. You’re up in that piece 4, 5, 6 times a week. Everyone there knows your face, and they know you’re as serious as a heart attack. You never go anything less than H.A.M. on any one exercise. Maybe you’ve even seen some results, and you’re well on your way to becoming a swoldier, sickbrah, or straight-up beast monster.

Assuming your cardio is on point (which it better be if rapid muscular definition is what you seek), there’s no reason you’re not tearing shirt sleeves on the daily by now. But you’re not.

I’m willing to bet 5 lbs of quality gains that at least one of the following reasons is to blame.

Now before I go through the list, keep in mind the following truth: muscle takes time to grow. The massive dudes and gals you see on the cover of muscle magazines work LONG hours and MANY years to look like that. And many of them have help, if you know what I mean.

Just sayin.

Regardless, it takes a long time to healthily damage muscle tissue and have it regenerate with more of itself. It just does. Accept it.

Now, without further ado, here are the 11 reasons you’re not making gains in the gym.

1) Not enough sleep

Sleep is when most of your muscular regeneration occurs. If you are busting your ass at the gym, but also have to study for finals that night or write a 10-page paper, or you have to work a job early the next morning, there’s a good chance your hard work in the gym is being squandered.

Learn to make time specifically for sleep. You wouldn’t skip squats on Leg Day (I hope! assuming you’re able to do them). So don’t sacrifice sleep either. It is arguably the most important thing for your goals, aside from training and nutrition.

2) Too much bodyfat

Now, don’t overthink this one. The fact is, you may have made muscular gains, but they are simply not as visible as they might be if you had less bodyfat.

This is the problem with training purely for aesthetic reasons: sports-oriented exercisers train to gain muscle; aesthetic-oriented exercisers train to gain visible muscle. Muscular gain in a sport is generally considered an improvement no matter how visible it is. But if you just want to look swole and shredded, the improvements you definitely and deservedly made don’t seem as significant if they are not visible.

So, you can either adjust your priorities to be less aesthetic-oriented (lol, although it’s a good idea), or increase your level of aerobic exercise and/or reduce your caloric intake (see #6). Doing so will start to attack the fat so the muscular gains are more visible.

3) Wrong rep ranges

Most of us start out doing three sets of ten repetitions in the gym. This is good. Between 6 and 12 reps is a great rep range for muscle growth (also known as hypertrophy), based on what we know.

However, it’s good to change things up every once in a while. The higher the amount of repeitions, the more you’ll be building muscular endurance, which is probably not what you’re looking for, although this does allow weight-training to serve as aerobic exercise (see #2)

The lower the amount of repetitions, the more you’ll be training for Strength increases, rather than hypertrophy. If your progress with lifting has stalled, maybe it’s time to train for strength for a while. Try 4 sets of 5 reps for a month or two, and then come back to the 6-12 range in a month or two, or six.

4) Too much isolation

There’s a good chance you’re not at a point of training where you need to be working on “bringing up” your soleus, pectoralis minor, teres major, or serratus muscle. Compound movements (meaning multi-muscle) like squat, deadlift, bench press, pullup, overhead press, bent-over row, and plank, and variations on them, are far better at building muscle because the larger muscle groups (chest, back, legs, and all three deltoids) are able to lift heavier loads than the small muscle groups (biceps, triceps, individual deltoids, calves, or any other smaller muscle). Therefore, compound movements are able to build more muscle in a shorter amount of time.

Later, when you’ve built a sturdy foundation of muscle through compound movements, THEN you’ve earned the right to spend time on isolation movements, to “bring up” that lagging rear deltoid, pesky long tricep head, or stubborn vastus medialis. (google it).

5) Overtraining

Recovery is essential. If you constantly are sore when you work out, you’re not giving your muscles time to regenerate before training them again. This will, naturally, inhibit growth, not to mention other things: sleep quality, appetite, hormone production, and general energy levels. Rule of thumb: give each muscle group 72 hours to recover before training it again.

6) Not enough calories

This one is simple. In order to build muscle, you must be in a caloric surplus. It doesn’t have to be a 2000-calories surplus, but ANY surplus really. This means you must track your calories to make sure you’re getting enough calories. How do you know how many calories you need, you ask? Use a Basal Metabolic Rate (BMR) calculator like this one to find out how many calories you need to lose, maintain, or gain weight, and adjust from there.

A wise bodybuilder once said, “I’d rather miss a full day of workouts than one meal.” That’s right; he said “workouts,” meaning he works out more than once a day. Do NOT use this as an excuse to miss workouts of course; just use it as an indicator of how important meals are, and how much of a lifestyle “making gains” can become. Which leads me to:

7) Shit diet and crap lifestyle

The importance of protein is often overstated in articles like this, while getting high-quality calories throughout your macronutrient intake (protein, carbohydrates, and fats) is often overlooked. If you eat processed high-calorie, nutrient-deficient foods, you will likely gain unwanted weight and feel like crap all the time.

Focus on nutrient-dense foods: lean or plant-based proteins, leafy greens, colorful veggies, whole grains, sweet fruits, healthy fats, and starchy carbs full of vitamins and fiber like red sweet potatoes.

Make this focus part of a change in your lifestyle: from only caring about gains, to caring about being the best, strongest, and healthiest version of yourself possible. Get good sleep, drink lots of water, deal productively with stress, and learn to overcome fears. Sound simple, right? One step at a time.

If gains are super-important to you, you might have to sacrifice other things in your life, like staying up late, partying, not caring about what you eat, et cetera. If you realize gains are not THAT important to you, that’s fine. Just focus on being healthy then, and put your energy into things that really matter to you.

8) Too much alcohol

This also ties into lifestyle. Alcohol has been shown to inhibit muscle regeneration and the production of hormones including testosterone. The research has not been conclusive, but highly suggests a link, especially when it comes to habitual or binge intake. The very good website Breaking Muscle discusses this in greater depth here.

Additionally, alcohol=calories, and these calories might be holding you back (see #2 again). I get it, we want to get jacked during the day and then party at night and enjoy our “aesthetic lifestyles.” I hear you. But you have to decide what your ultimate priority is: fitting in with those around you, or getting the best results you can get. If complete alcohol abstinence is too much for you to even contemplate, make moderation the key.

9) Poor form

If your movements are bad, your results will be bad. How are you supposed to build size in your quads by squatting if all the weight is on your toes? How are you supposed to build your chest by bench pressing if your arms are all flared out and your delts and back muscles are doing all the work? You can’t. So, research better form or have a trainer or experienced lifter (one who’s not snarled with injuries) show you how it’s done.

Additionally, poor form is a recipe for an injury (see #10, duh).

10) You have pain

Does your back hurt doing deadlifts? Do your knees hurt doing squats? Do your shoulders hurt doing rowing movements? THIS IS NOT OKAY. Don’t try to “power through” pain; it will only get worse and eventually lead to a real injury.

See a doctor if you can, get some scans and tests done. Meanwhile, research avoiding specific pains by altering your form, and possibly changing or removing exercise movements that simply don’t agree with your body. There are so many types of squats and deadlifts and pressing movements to choose from, there’s bound to be something you can work with.

And last, but certainly not least:

11) Impatience and Inconsistency

As I said earlier, muscle growth takes time. If you get impatient and are inconsistent with your training, or gosh forbid, give up because it’s too hard, you won’t see any gains and the gains you ‘ve made will likely suffer for it. Stand above and beyond the poseurs who just want instant gratification without having to work for it. If you want to look a certain way, feel a certain way, you must decide to take the time and put in the work, and DO IT, and then your goals will be within reach.

And there you have it. The eleven reasons you’re not making gains. I hope you’ve been able to identify the cause of your perceived lack of progress, and can now start to correct it. Now go lift!